Everything i read anywhere at any time romanians bitch about something…”we cant do…” ,”how come the germans are like that and we cant”, “the brits are like…and we just cant..”,”what a terrible song,i cant believe this band is romanian like me” and so on…

Romanians just cant stop for a second and say something nice about themselves or their countrymen,always criticizing to the point of absurd…just read the dialog battles going on between romanians on the internet.
They like to punish themselves with verbal abuse,and most of all to not recognise the value of their own people.Usually aknowledgement has to come from abroad before voices start praising anyone or anything romanian.

If there’s one thing more true than anything about romanians(which i learned as a native) is that everyone’s a critic and melodrama is the norm…in reality critics beeing few far in between.

What you wrote wasnt about the elite leading the country it was a general statement about all romanians which i take offence,seeing how i have relatives in Italy,US,Romania and i live in Spain and in all cases we like interacting with the other romanians where we live.Most are decent ppl,hard working,altruistical.

When i first moved to Spain the company i had to work for screwed me over and i stayed 3 months with a romanian couple until i got a job in the same field and i could move in my own apartment.How’s that for not helping each other?

May i dare ask how have you changed our nation’s path by your actions?…apart from pointing the obvious and sometimes wrong or old conceptions.(oh and dont ask me how i fair in that regard,because i dont bitch around the internet trying to form opinions).

NOW!to introduce myself…i’m a romanian man in my early 30s living in Spain for the last 7 years and working as engineer for a spanish solar company.I have a brother living in Italy with his romanian wife,i have 2 nieces(16yo and 13yo) who are in Romania(and not Italy with their parents) staying with my folks,and i also have an uncle and an aunt(both romanian) living in the US.

Why the long unnecessary intro you might ask? Simple,there’s a saying in romanian:”cine se aseamana se aduna”(“those who look alike,are alike”)…this means that no matter where on this Earth romanians will seek each other out.
My brother met his wife in Italy and my uncle in US.

I want to point out some “rules”,points of view,insights,opinions to those interested:

1.as i said above, romanians seek out other romanians when abroad(not always but more often than not).

2.ROMANIANS DONT TRUST FOREIGNERS.you will have to struggle alot to break “the armor” before u are allowed in.it will require alot from your part and you will have to prove worthy.(this comes from a very long history of fighting invaders,and 1000years of wars to get our own country)

3.we might be white and seem the same as you but our cultures differ soooo much you cant even begin to imagine;we’re latins,slavs,hungaryans,dacians,illyrians,thracians,greeks,germanic,gypsies an amalgam of nations and ethnicities who speak a latin derived language at the crossroads of 3 big cultural trends:central european,balcanic,oriental.

4.men and women are as diversified in mentality as the ethnic groups that form this nation,so your luck in finding a decent guy/girl resembles a lottery extraction.(but dont be discouraged)

5.we’re highly xenophobic,but tolerant(antithetical i know),we have to,or we’d break apart if we wouldnt be, seeing how we arent an omogen nation.what i mean is…discrimination of any kind is discouraged but we dont mix with non-white or non-christian,non-ethnic etc(that’s the xenophobic part).this is not general however and things are beginning too change(sloooowly).
we discriminate against hungarians(after centuries of occupying a region of our country) and gipsies(who are seen as lazy,thieves,have too many children and so on),homosexuals arent doing any good also and others prolly.

6.90% of romanians believe in a god(not me) but only 15-20% go to church weekly(more in the countryside and less in the cities).we’re +95% christian(all denominations).we tolerate muslims, BARELY.we fought against them from the 14th century until modern age.

7.romanians are very polite(to a certain point one might add),as testimony,in the romanian language there’s a formal/polite form when adressing someone(strangers,elderly ppl) and an informal/personal one(the latter used for family,friends,people you know).
politeness doesnt mean he/she likes you,it means he/she studies you.

8.the older the romanian man/woman the more traditional,and closed minded he/she will be(or become later…they can disguise that).the younger ones are more western oriented but to a certain extent.this depends on alot of things,from “communism time” or how much he/she lived under communism,to how he/she was raised and in what context.
most of them(us) live with our parents until late because of the shortage of constructed houses/apartments and even money to buy one.
when a man and a woman get married often parents on both sides+them+some other relatives contribute to buying a house/apartment.salaries are not western(altho we’re getting there) and mortgages/loans are unaffordable by most.

9.this point is closely related to the previous(8).seeing how the children live with the parents until late they’re often pampered which creats a whole lot of problems later.(when i moved from my parents house at 25 i had no idea how to cook,wash my own clothes and such)

10.romanians like food(their food).we dont eat exotic foods(like chinese cuisine or indian),at least not yet.we eat healthy and nothing with “enhanced” anything.we preffer momma’s food…and as i said we eat traditional and conservative…as close to our cuisine as possible(if no romanian food is available we go for italian or french or something close to ours).
i tried myself all sorts of food but now i eat only traditional food in romanian restaurants or at home.

11.dont get your hopes up about him/her,be cool,ask alot of questions,try and see if that person has a hidden agenda.romanians are sneaky,and often want something,beeing material or spiritual.we are goal oriented,and extremely good at deceiving.

There’s alot more to say but i’d like to develop abit on my own experience.
I travel alot in western europe and US with different projects and seeing how i only go out with good looking and smart women i have to say this:
-german women are very intelligent and as all germans very systematic and goal oriented,too frigid and too serious for me.
-italian women, extremely beautiful,stylish,into anything new(sometimes bizzare things).
-spanish…i dont really know,i went out with a spanish chick of arabic ethnicity,cant really tell how are the ones with a deeper genealogical tree.she was great but lacked modesty,and proper organisation.
-american women,dont know and i dont really intend to find out;most that i’ve encountered were boring,self-absorbed,not really aesthetically pleasing(in dress code or looks).i did however hook up with a south-african(white) girl which was a kind of waitress at golf resort or sthg.she wasnt very smart but her artistic side got to me…not enough tho.(i’m picky i know).
SO,in the summary above you can see MY CONCEPTION on the women of those nations…which is probably highly inaccurate and based on 1-2 relationships in each category.

In my college freshman year i fell deeply in love with my romanian sweetheart.We were both stubborn,competing for leadership in the relationship,overreacting,melodramatic,with no life experience..in a word, young.We remained friends and we made a pact after we broke up 6months later that if none of us is with anyone by 35 we’ll get married.
At 22 we hooked up again,we were engaged for 2 years,but more material realities got in our way aswell as her parents,so we broke up again.
Now,at 33 and one pact later i’m married to the woman of my dreams…2 years in advance(of 35) and i couldnt care less about other women of any nationality.

I’m a hopeless romantic and i probably never loved another woman,although i looked around .

My advice for anyone that meets a romanian, try and have a go at it…who knows what might happen.

As for the above stories,i’m happy for the few ones with a good outcome and dissapointed about the majority ending badly.Good luck in your endeavours ladies and gens.

SRY FOR THE WALL OF TEXT.

i am born and rised in India i am reading the article by accident and i felt intresting abt romania culture and people ……….

i am business management post gradute looking for ward to come to romania in short time…..

any country needs to develop only in three ascepts education, resource, and good strong government…….

and media is powerful way to tell to people how?what?why ?where? we are oing right or wrong…. hope to explore a option and print and shwo the people that wat needs to be done to make the heavenly place of romania as the bestin the world…. changing the thoughts of peoples dont it is not as easy but it is not as difficult also i belongs to democract country now people changed in india rapidly in past 15yrs it is best living culture country….
change is word that people resists so lets use it as learning… USA THE WEAPON OF VOICE media we can make the difference…. no country is born perfect only people amke this perfect… so lets do it……

Dating can be fun, but if your ultimate goal is to find your life partner, there is no reason to spend time with people who aren’t right for you.

A loving Romanian bride is probably not as hard to find as you may think. There are literally thousands of Romanian women that are looking for love and romance with western men. The reason for this is that the ratio of men to women in Romania is extremely lopsided, as there are far more women than men.

So, just find the right site on the web and start browsing through the photos and personal profiles of hundreds of interesting beautiful Romanian women. Hopefully, your perfect bride is somewhere there, waiting for you.

How can you be sure you have the picked the right one?

For a compatible relationship the couple should have common interests. You have to have something in common with your partner in order to be able to be with her and do things together.

Talk online or over phone with her and try to find the answers to these questions:

Do you share common goals and priorities?
Where do you want to live?
How does each of you feel about spending and saving?
What are you building your future toward?
What kind of cars do you want to drive?
What things do you like to do together?
Are there things you love to do that you want to share with your partner?
How does your partner feel about doing those things?
Are there things your partner loves to do and wants you to love them too but you don’t?
And then you must consider if there are things you love to do without your partner and if your partner is willing to understand and accept that?

Though women are supposed to stay at home and take care of kids and home but if she is an ambitious kind of a person then are you willing to let her have that career she has always wanted?

Talking about the distribution of housework is also an area to discuss ahead of time. How much time will be spent together and how much time will be spent apart?

The next thing that you have to look out for is whether your partner and your intellect match. It is very difficult to communicate with a dull or insensitive person. Ask these questions to yourself. When you talk to her, is she on the same level as you?

Another thing to consider is if you like each other’s friends? How does each of you feel about your partner’s family? Talk a lot about your friends and your family and make her know them.

But the most important thing, after you’re getting to know each other better, is to ask yourself what qualities do you respect in her? Would you be happy if your child turns out like her? Can you accept this woman exactly as she is, for the rest of your life?

If the answers to the last 2 questions are “YES” you can start to make your luggage and come to Romania to meet her face to face.

Have a great flight!